Trust is the most significant part of any relationship.

Whenever we talk about the relationship between parents and teens it is more important to make this bond stronger than before. The trust represents the ability to put a strong belief in someone and its roots grow year by year. Most of the parents found trust issues with their teens because it is very difficult to find the balance between the needs of teenagers, their point of view towards the things, their requirements of independence, privacy, and understanding of their beliefs and myths.

Your trust plays an important role in developing adulthood of teens.  You and your teen need to be mutually develop a healthy way to trust each other and behave honestly in your relationship. However your children grow up, they become more independent, try to be alone, ignore to talk with you, try to hide things from parents, start noticing you and asks more questions related to the real world.

Benefit to build trust with your teenager

• Sharing is caring
• Strengthening bond of parents and teens
• Teens start learning responsibility
• Harmony in family
• Better focus on GOAL
• Win Win situation

8 Tips To Build Strong Trustable Relationship with Teens

1. Be a good listener

What does your teen need? Strict parents like boss or Loosey-Goosey parent?

• Mostly parents are stereotype one as boss and another as loosey-goosey.
• Boss: Very strict like whatever I said you need to do it, I am the earning person, so only I decide what you need to do and what not. Once you start earning take your decisions by your own
• Loosey-goosey parent: They are most chill and relaxed about their teen’s activities like whatever you want to like to do, you can do it I don’t care. They might be strict about bed time but may not be strict for screen time.
• But what does a teen want? They need Gyan from parents with proper understanding their situation, They want a parent who can listen them calmly, who can understand their needs, who can guide them for better tomorrow, who can mentor them for what is right-what is wrong, who will not order like this is the thing you have to do, but advise them for the two different possibilities or pros and cons of decision that they want to make for a situation, who can handle the pain of the teen and who can celebrate the success, who can appreciate their victory and who can supports in failure, who can motivate in every phase of life, who can take stand of their teens.

2. Find common interest to spend time together

Try to make a list of activities that you and your teen want to do together. It might be a badminton, cricket, video games, LUDO, volleyball, sharing news, cooking, painting, gardening or anything else. These common lists of activities can give you the complete topic to communicate to your teen and know more about him/her.

3. Children are reflection of their parents

*As per survey 74% of Indian parents feel that their relationship with their kids may be hurt because of smartphones. 75% admit to having been distracted by their smartphones and not being attentive to kids even while with them.

Asking your child to spend only one hour then it will generate a problem in between relationship of you and your child. So, firstly make sure that your actions should be good enough for your teen to learn something from it. As their observation and learning skills are too good, they always try to follow your actions. So, make sure about your actions.

4. Accept your mistakes & share them with your teens

In Indian culture, we always believe that parents are another form of GOD & that’s a great thing we teach our generations. But even we should teach them that GOD also can do mistakes, so as a parent if you did any mistake then please say sorry to your teen instead of scolding them for it. Accept your mistakes and explain your teen the reason for it if possible, this makes your relation stronger than ever.

5. Don’t be spy

You should learn to respect the privacy of your teen. In teenage, the children may behave differently sometimes then you need to sit with them and ask them the reason behind it. But for the investigation purpose or any other purpose if you’ll start spying your child then it will break the bond in between of you both.

6. Keep your promises & be consistent in showering your love.

Always try to be consistent for your child. Keep your promises and commitments and in some cases if you are not able to complete your promises like gifts then explain the true reason so teen can understand it.

7. Schedule Family Time

Does your family have scheduled family time, where all family come together and share their day experiences? Skip negativity and arguments during family time, be a good listener and let them feel good to share anything in family time.

This is the time where children can learn from real life experiences of parents, and parents also get to know about happening in children’s life.

In addition with knowledge of study what other important thing with parents is – EXPERIENCE. Parents need to share their experience with teens, about your growth, failure, success mantra, any teacher, facts and other real time examples of this universe. This will make them more knowledgeable and improve your trust level with teens. As well as instead of sharing knowledge, as a parent you need to share the fun-facts you did in your childhood or teenage, any discrepancies or mistakes that you did previously. This will help teenagers recognize that not every person is perfect and that mistakes are common for all. What we need to do is just learn from our mistakes and, with our experience, move ahead with proper direction.

8. Do conversation with proper eye contact

During the conversation with your teen, try to listen them properly and doesn’t matter what you’re doing at that moment make eye contact and show a genuine interest in what your child has to say to you.

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*As per survey held by VIVO conducted in association with Cyber Media Research